UUFA Newsletter – October 2026 – Asking the Questions

Woven Faith – Asking the Questions

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Sunday Services for October

October 4  – Annual Animal Blessing – Please join us Sunday, October 4th for our annual Animal Blessing Sunday when we honor our animal friends and the love and companionship they bring to our lives. All well-behaved animals are welcome, although leashes, crates or other appropriate forms of containment are required. If you are unable to bring your pet for the blessing, feel free to bring a picture or submit one on the Facebook event post and we will try to work it into the slide show.UUFA member Jeff wunderly will lead the service. All are welcome!

October 11 – Coming Out Day –  “We live in a culture that often celebrates independence and self-sufficiency. We are taught to admire those who “make it on their own” and “pull themselves up.” Yet, our lives tell a different story. Every one of us is shaped by relationships, communities, ecosystems, histories, and countless acts of care. None of us arrives here alone.

For LGBTQ+ people, this truth is especially visible. Across generations, chosen families, mutual aid networks, congregations, advocacy organizations, neighbors, friends, and loved ones have helped create pathways toward safety, joy, and flourishing. The story of LGBTQ+ liberation and survival is also a story of interdependence.

This service invites congregations to reflect on the many ways our lives are connected and to consider what those connections ask of us today.”  Roberta Roberson will be our service leader.

October 18 – What are Words Worth – Nellie James – description TBA

October 25 – Asking the Questions – We will further explore the Woven Faith theme for this month – Asking the Questions. As humans we naturally have questons about our place in the world and what the meaning of life on this planet means.  What questionns do you have ? This will be a participatory service as we will pose the questions and spend a bit of time generating responses to our big questnos.  Barb Harrison , service leader

 

Gratitude from the Whealeys

Alice and David Whealey would like to thank the Fellowship for helping with their father’s memorial September 20.  An excerpt from Alice’s reminiscences: “My father, despite growing up in New York, ended up, somewhat by accident, attending Bates College in Maine his freshman and sophomore year.  For his first academic job, he was hired by the University of Maine, partly, in the opinion of my father, because he already had experience in a small Maine college town through Bates. It was in Maine that my father, who had been raised by a theologically conservative Methodist mother, convinced my mother, who had been involved in liberal Episcopal churches since college, to attend a Unitarian church.  New England is the stronghold of American Unitarianism, as some of you know. After my father moved to Athens in 1964, he and his wife Lois became founding members of this institution, the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Athens. I remember when the walls of this building were only a foot high; later, we children were even corralled into painting the deck with creosote—no worries about legal liability in those days!  Also, my father requested that his ashes be placed in the columbarium outside this building. Once, when he was in the throes of high school senioritis, my older brother asked to be excused from coming to the Fellowship with us—my father, mother, other brother and me. My father told him that when he left home for college he was free to do whatever he wanted on Sundays but for now….In retrospect, since coming here on Sundays was one of the few activities that my father did with the rest of our family–(he was a typical father of baby boomer kids, very much involved in career), it seemed to be good advice, advice which I used on my children before they left home.”

 

 

Inspiration from the UUA 

Brave New Patterns

By Ann Stillwater

“I’m not broken. I’m different and that’s okay.”
—Ellen Hedger

“Hablo mejor que entiendo.” Years ago I memorized this phrase to explain my Spanish-speaking abilities: “I speak better than I understand.” My aunt was trilingual and I have her gift for learning proper pronunciation in other languages, but not her ability to understand them—so I feel lost and ashamed in pretty much every Spanish conversation.

This is also true in English, my native tongue: I do better at speaking than understanding. Like the time I went into too much detail on the phone about our upcoming motel reservation when all they needed was my last name to find the reservation. Each time I make this kind of mistake, it’s too easy to catapult myself back into the shame and guilt that was instilled in me as a child. I’ve been working on this for decades: learning that I often give too much information, and trying to remember that folks want to be heard—because I want to be a better listener!

A few years ago I found out the “why” behind my struggles: I’m on the autism spectrum. This helps explain my difficulty understanding! As a child, I was consistently over-corrected by my (probably also autistic) mom, who just wanted me to fit in. She taught me to focus on giving to others and sharing my knowledge. I loved to read and learn, and there was so much amazing and helpful info I could share! It was a way to mask my autism—though I didn’t have those words for it.

Learning about my neurodiversity has been a huge relief: I do not need to continue carrying the toxic shame that has haunted my entire life. It’s also a complicated journey: I haven’t been able to just flip the switch to rid myself of decades of conditioning. It’s a slow learning curve. I still often go into shame, but I am creating brave new patterns of compassion and patience for myself.

Hablo mejor… Yes, I do speak better than I understand, but coming to understand myself more deeply points me towards tools that are leading to a more relaxed and serene life.

Prayer

Spirit of Life and Learning, thank you for continuing insights about myself and my world. As I seek a healthy balance between giving and receiving, speaking and listening, let me deepen my appreciation for uniqueness, mine and others’.